Five Tips For Introverts To Deal With Social Exhaustion
A person can find all kinds of information on the Internet. It’s trying to decide what is fact and what has been puffed up to make whatever the topic is more interesting. I found a site a couple of years ago called the ‘Power of Positivity.’ I enjoy inspirational quotes and ideas how one can deal with certain situations.
Tips for Introverts got my attention because throughout most of my high school years and my first two years of college, I was very shy (or introverted), especially with strangers. I had my own little group that mainly consisted of cousins and a couple of close friends. I would get extremely nervous going to school functions unless it was sports. My mind was on what I was doing and not the crowd around me. It was kind of hard to date because I didn’t want to talk with people I didn’t know.
Somehow I fumbled my way through those awkward teen years and early twenties, but I pretty much stuck to myself. I didn’t go out of my way to meet new people and make new friends. I really wish I would have known how to deal with social exhaustion, but at least I can share these tips.
1. Get away from people. Introverts must have time to themselves daily mainly to regroup, decompress and recharge. Going to long without alone time will result in social burnout.
2. Don’t do things you don’t want to do with people you don’t care for. While it is impossible to avoid all social events, you can pick and choose who you hang out with and where you go, for the most part.
3. Practice self-soothing techniques when you go out. Talk when you want to. You don’t have to talk every minute, step back and listen or escape into a daydream for a short time.
4. Live a life that makes you comfortable. Don’t try and go against your personality. Never apologize if your definition of happiness is very different from someone else’s.
5. Learn to love yourself. Most people truly don’t understand introverts. They try to engage someone into doing something that they wouldn’t do on their own. Remember: You have the free will to act as you wish (as long as it doesn’t harm others), so stay true to your personality and never change for someone else.
Research tells us that 16-50 percent of the population are introverts. This means that a good chunk of the world must try and figure out how to survive in an overly extroverted culture when it does not come naturally to them. The simple act of trying to blend in to an extroverted society is overwhelming and tiring. It’s the trying to be something you’re not that is taxing on and introvert.
Introverts are the targets of bullies and others who give them a hard time simply because they don’t seem “friendly” or outgoing as most people in the world. People do not understand what being an introvert means, but don’t pretend to be something you’re not just to fit in.
Although I overcame my shyness or being introverted, it wasn’t easy to become an extrovert and what I did will not work for most. I went to tend bar in my hometown, where I knew everyone and they knew me. It was one of the most difficult things I have ever done, but I’m glad I did it.
I still am what I would consider a loner. I can spend time with family and friends, but I don’t mind being by myself and doing my own thing. My family doesn’t understand this and that’s alright. They do give me my space when I need it and are there when I want people around.
If you are shy or considered to be an introvert, I hope these five tips will help you as you live in this great big world.
Just something to remember: Never apologize to others for their misunderstanding of who you are.